10 Things to stop doing in a relationship

The dynamics of any relationship is peculiar. From birth we have been moulded into beings that move from one relationship to another and as we move it seems that we need to fulfil societal roles. From being in a relationship with our parents to moving into friendships, intimate relationship, marriage and eventually being parents to our very own children. Somewhere in the midst of this movement we begin to feel the need to dominate over another.

Friendships, marriages and even homes have been broken due to the need to dictate and control another.

So, here are things to stop doing in every relationship 

• Don’t try to change the other person. Each individual has been given their own unique character, this is what makes us into what we are. If you try to change another person, you will be constantly disappointed because the person will never live up to your standard.
• Grow up and stop being a jealous person. Its is human nature to have friends, even the ones of the opposite sex. My advice to you is that if your partner is making you feel insecure, then maybe its time to move on. However unwarranted jealousy is unfair on the other person.
• Not being 100% present when you are together is sadly the prevailing truth in most relationships. Technology has taken over our lives and the depressing truth is that most couples may be in the same room for hours but will barely utter a word to each other. Learn to switch off and be present in every moment.
• Stop competing with each other, relationships are not competitions, its about pushing each other to be the best they can be. There is no winner and loser, its all about support.
• Don’t give hurtful comments, once the words are released it can never be taken back. Think before you speak. If you are upset, it would be wiser to call time out. Hurtful comments will only lead to heartache.
• Don’t be defensive to criticism, listen with an open mind.
• Don’t give solutions to problems when all the other person wants is for you to listen.
• Stop complaining, it is frustrating to be around someone that is never grateful and always complaining.
• Stop concealing problems, brushing things under the rug does not make them go away. Face issues head on with an open mind.
• And finally, don’t force something that is not meant to be.